ORTHODOX JEWISH DATING COACH · SHADCHAN · SPEAKER
Dating for marriage is hard enough.
You do not have to sort through it alone.
I’m Adeena Halberstam, a dating coach and longtime volunteer shadchan. I work with Orthodox Jewish men and women who want a private place to talk honestly about dating. Maybe suitable suggestions are not coming. Maybe you are seeing someone and cannot tell whether a concern is meaningful or just nerves. Or maybe you have not started because something keeps getting in the way. We slow it down, look at what is actually happening, and work out what makes sense next.
Here when you need an honest conversation,
Adeena
Shadchan for 15+ Years
& othersCertified Dating Coach
Certified by Rabbi Dr Yossi Ives
Men & Women
Private 1:1 Coaching
Marriage-Focused
Torah Values. Real Guidance.
WHEN DATING STARTS TO FEEL STUCK
You may not need more advice.
You may need a clearer way to date.
Friends mean well. Family has opinions. Shadchanim have feedback. Sometimes the hardest part is figuring out what actually applies to you. Coaching gives you a private place to sort through the noise, understand your patterns, and make decisions you can feel good about.
Every “maybe” turns into days of overthinking.
Was that a real concern, nerves, lack of chemistry, or simply a date that needs more time? Coaching helps you slow the spiral and make a clearer decision.
You keep finding yourself in the same patterns.
Different person, same frustration. We look at what keeps repeating and what you can actually change.
You’re unsure what matters and what’s just noise.
Learn to separate core values, compatibility, and meaningful concerns from preferences that may be getting too much weight.
The shidduch process is wearing you down.
You can be hopeful and exhausted at the same time. Coaching gives you a place to reset, regroup, and keep dating without losing yourself in the process.
You want honest feedback without judgment.
Sometimes you need someone who will tell you the truth kindly, without family pressure or an agenda.
You want guidance that understands the frum world.
No long explanations about shadchanim, references, family involvement, or dating for marriage. Adeena already understands the system you’re navigating.
THE MATCHES BY ADEENA DIFFERENCE
“I’ve spent more than 15 years watching how singles date, how shadchanim think, and what helps a promising relationship move forward.”
— Adeena Halberstam
EXPERIENCE. INSIGHT. A PERSONAL APPROACH.
The perspective of a shadchan, without hiring a matchmaker.
For more than 15 years, Adeena has volunteered as a shadchan. She has seen how singles present themselves, how shadchanim think, what families ask, where good dates get derailed, and what can help a promising relationship move forward.
Her paid work is coaching only. That means the conversation is not about finding you a name. It is about helping you date with more clarity, confidence, and self-awareness.
Adeena also received a dating coaching certificate from Rabbi Dr. Yossi Ives, bringing a structured coaching framework to years of real-world shidduch experience.
- Practical guidance grounded in real shidduch experience
- A private place to talk honestly without being judged
- Coaching for both men and women
- A marriage-focused approach that respects Torah values
IN THEIR OWN WORDS
Kind words from people who know Adeena’s work.
Married couples and a respected leader in the shidduch community share what it was like to have Adeena’s guidance, coaching, and support.
“Her guidance, wisdom, and genuine care made all the difference in our journey. Without her support, our marriage wouldn’t have been possible.”
Ushi & Sarah Leah
Monsey, New York
“She has a remarkable ability to quickly get to the heart of the matter, offering solutions that are both soft and fair.”
Lisa Elefant
Founder, Adopt A Shadchan
“From the moment we both said yes, Adeena’s guidance and support were invaluable. Thanks to Adeena’s tireless efforts and dedication, we are now married!”
Alyse & Ilan Roth
Baltimore, Maryland
HOW COACHING WORKS
A simple process built around your actual dating life.
There is no generic curriculum. We start with what is happening for you right now and focus on the things that will make dating clearer, calmer, and more productive.
01
Free discovery call
A 10-minute conversation to tell Adeena what has been happening, what you want help with, and whether coaching feels like a good fit.
02
Get clear on the real issue
Sometimes the question you arrive with is not the real thing keeping you stuck. Together, you identify what deserves attention first.
03
Focused 30-minute coaching
Bring a current dating situation, recurring pattern, decision, or goal. Sessions are practical and focused, so you leave knowing what to do next.
04
Apply it while you date
Use what you worked on in real life. Come back with what changed, what still feels unclear, and what you want to work through next.
COACHING OPTIONS
Start with the level of support you need.
All new coaching clients start with a free discovery call. If we decide to work together, choose one focused session or a package that gives us more time to work through patterns as they come up.
Free Discovery Call
Free
10 minutes
A short conversation to talk about what is going on, what you want help with, and whether working together makes sense.
- Get to know Adeena
- Ask your most important questions
- No pressure to book coaching
Clarity Session
$125
30 minutes
Best for one current decision, question, or dating situation that you want to think through clearly.
- Focus on one pressing issue
- Get direct, thoughtful feedback
- Leave with practical next steps
Dating Clarity
$450
4 sessions, 30 minutes each
Best for singles who want to work on recurring patterns, confidence, decision-making, or several stages of active dating.
- Four focused sessions
- Time to identify patterns and test new approaches
- Saves $50 compared with four single sessions
Dating Partnership
$850
8 sessions, 30 minutes each
Best for singles who want consistent coaching through a longer stretch of dating and enough time to work more deeply.
- Eight focused sessions
- More continuity across changing dating situations
- Saves $150 compared with eight single sessions
DATING INSIGHTS
Answers for the questions singles are actually asking.
Practical guidance on dating, shidduchim, decision-making, confidence, and the questions that can keep you up after a date.
Decision-Making
How Do I Know If I Should Go on Another Date?
Decision-Making
Am I Being Too Picky, or Is This Actually Not Right for Me?
Confidence and Mindset
Why Do I Keep Losing Interest After Two or Three Dates?
COMMON QUESTIONS
Before you book a call.
Do you work with both men and women?
Yes. Adeena coaches both Orthodox Jewish men and women who are dating for marriage.
Are you still a shadchan?
Yes. Adeena still makes matches on a volunteer basis. Matchmaking is separate from her paid coaching work and is not included with coaching.
Do I have to be actively dating right now?
No. Coaching can also be useful if you are preparing to date, coming back after a break, or trying to understand what has not been working before you start again.
Is coaching therapy?
No. Dating coaching is practical, goal-focused support. It is not psychotherapy and it does not replace care from a licensed mental health professional when that is what you need.
A CLEARER DATING PROCESS CAN START WITH ONE CONVERSATION
Get clearer about what’s keeping you stuck.
Book a free 10-minute discovery call with Adeena. Tell her what has been happening, ask your questions, and see whether coaching feels like the right next step.
No pressure. Just a real conversation about where you are and what might help.